Spring has arrived in Sydney and we are soaking in the warmer days as much as we can. Who doesn’t love Spring? (Besides the allergens, of course!) Oliver has been asking when Spring will come since the middle of winter because he missed the flowers so much. Each morning he ran into our bedroom asking, “Is it Spring today?” When September 1 finally arrived he was so excited!
Spring is often referred to as the season of rebirth or change. It’s a time of rejuvenation. For me it’s like the New Year–a time of reflection as I contemplate what changes I might need to make to improve my life and personal well being. The practice of Mindfulness is very important so with the long days it means it’s easier for me to get out of bed earlier to make it a priority.
How are you doing taking care of yourself as a parent? Do you use these seasons to stop in the midst of your busy day to really think about if your needs are being met? We all have been told that we can’t take care of others unless we take care of ourselves first. For some this is hard. I certainly struggled with this my entire life until I went to a therapist to learn how to do it! Slowly I am getting better at it and feeling less guilty when I have to say ‘no’ to a request or commitment. It’s hard when you are an innate people pleaser; but I realise now that if it will stretch me to far I have to be firm. My health and personal welfare is now a top priority so it’s easy to rationalise my decision.
I also want to model this behaviour of self-kindness to my children. I believe the act of being still and present in the moment is a huge component to this. When we learn to be comfortable in the stillness with ourselves we find it easier to find gratitude and self-forgiveness. As they admire and appreciate the multitudes of rebirths in Spring I want them to also find peace and joy in their hearts.
So how do we incorporate mindful moments in our day during this season? The easiest way is to look at my children’s interests. They all have a deep connection to nature so I really use that to our advantage and encourage them to slow down, stop and take the wonders in. Here are some of the moments we use in our day to practice…
- Admiring flowers; feeling the texture of their leaves, petals. Breathing in the scent, enjoying the vibrant colours.
- Observing insects. Slowing down and following snails, watching bees gather pollen and butterflies flutter or hover flies hover. Watch spider webs glisten in the sun.
- Pondering at a pond, creek or lake. Sitting and observing fish, ducks, turtles or frogs.
- Back to basics: laying on the grass and watching branches sway in the breeze or cloud formations in the sky.
- Visit the beach: take time to sit and watch the waves or feel the sand under your feet and fall through your fingers.
- Be a fox! Go outside barefoot in a wide open space and ask your child to close his eyes. Move away from him and ask him to use his senses to find him as you softly call his name.
- Hatch silkworms. This is a favourite for us. Watching them slowly munch on leaves and spin their cocoons is so cathartic.
- Take an easel out door and focus on a single object to paint or draw.
Do these activities with your child. You’ll both get in that “me time” that you need and deserve. I have a feeling that it will become a very special time for each of you. What a wondferful message it sends to your child that you are taking the time out of your day to be still with them and to focus on the moment together.
These are certainly activities that I treasure doing with my children and I see the benefits it gives to all of us as a family and to each individually. I would love hear from you about what works for your family!
With gratitude,
Megan xx